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Why you decide to do, but you don't follow through.

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No follow through - by Tim Wade In March 2018 I received confirmation that I would be delivering nine unique keynotes on a cruise ship in October that year. One of the topics was titled Get Healthier Finally and I figured I had 6 months to shape up before having to deliver that one. Excellent. Six months for me to get healthier finally. That's doable. Except I didn't follow through. Tell the truth Are there some decisions you've made that were awesome decisions, but then you never took any action? I'll tell you the truth: for me there have been a lot. It's almost as if I know what to do, I decide to do it, I might even want to do it, but I don't do it. And it drives me crazy. And it probably drives others crazy too. I'm not exclusively like that. Sometimes I make decisions bordering on impulsive, act immediately, boom: result. My recent trek to Everest is an example of that. (There are pros and cons with that approach as well. Sometimes that sort ...

Getting over the Fear of Public Speaking, by Tim Wade Motivational Speaker

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Getting over the Fear of Public Speaking, by Tim Wade Motivational Speaker Apparently the fear of public speaking ranks higher than the fear of dying. Perhaps that's because those fearing public speaking actually fear dying on stage and then living with the shame of it forever. I'm Tim Wade, a professional motivational speaker, Singapore -based, global clients. And I remember my worst ever speech. Pensively pre-speech ... in Japan, 29 Jan 2011 - Tim Wade The worst speech I ever gave It was at boarding school in Melbourne, Australia, when I had to give a farewell speech for one of the house tutors. I didn’t know him at all... and I did less research about him than those who oppose climate change. My speech consisted of only the following words: “Tonight we farewell Mr White who, as we all know, has a motorbike.” And I took about 8 minutes saying that in various different ways before deciding to sit down. My walk back to my seat after my moti...

Video - here's how I gamified my productivity with music and a talking timer

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Here's how I gamified my productivity with music and a talking timer... The goal: increase productivity. The method: fun. The video shows the process in action. The app is called: Talking Timer The music is: Resin (Overspring edit) by Aes Dana from the album Perimeters The result was: HUGE PRODUCTIVITY Try it out for yourself.

Your Christmas presence

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Zoe playing. I'm on the computer. I'm there but not present. She comes over with things, one time it was something that fell off the table and she wanted to add value to me by giving it back to me... Another time it was so that I could take a sip of her drink. She was trying to bring me in. She's not even two years old. Almost, just over a week from now.  But I saw it, I realised, and I shut the computer and went to engage. I love Christmas. I love it. I love the spirit of this time of year. It's undeniable. Even Ebenezer Scrooge transformed. It's amazing. And the reason for the season is either you believe in God's gift of Jesus Christ, or it's the nearly the end of your year and that will somehow make next year better. For me, I'm both the former AND the latter on this one. Whatever your belief right now, I hope you get your Christmas presence. Not a typo. I noticed that Zoe noticed that I wasn't being present. And isn't that re...

Starting your New Year's Resolutions today = 526% more success

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Starting your New Year's Resolutions today = 526% more success. If you start your New Year's Resolutions today, you will be 526% more likely to succeed at them. When you start your New Year's Resolutions today, rather than wait until New Year's Day, you're 526% more likely to succeed at achieving those resolutions. Because you're 5 times more likely to be committed to delivering the OUTCOME rather than just the annual intention if you start in December. Okay, here's the breakdown: 100% -- Because 1st Jan is when you're supposed to declare rather than actually do anything. That's why most resolutions are abandoned or forgotten by 17 Jan. Because the goal is to declare rather than do. And as soon as we go back to work we forget about the new and get back into the old. 200% -- Because the new you starts today, not some other day, and you want to start the new year already running, not fluffing around looking for your brand new gym shoes...

Hang in there, one day your mess will become your message

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HANG IN THERE, ONE DAY YOUR MESS WILL BECOME YOUR MESSAGE. You're going through this so you can help someone else... I believe whatever you're in right now is not something that is happening to you, it’s happening for you, and more specifically, it's happening for you to draw from when helping someone else. In time to come. So as you live through it, also observe it, remember it, learn from it, and as you seek and find resources within you and around you to come out from it, remember to keep your eyes and ears open for those you are to share your journey with, to help them through theirs. 🙂 I heard "One day your mess will become your message" at church last Sunday morning from a video of a local tennis star quoting from a book that helped save her life during a low, a suicidal low. It moved me enough to write about it here. Hopefully, it‘ll give an amazing perspective to someone who could use a higher point of view right now. - Tim Wade Tim...

What's your purpose for doing what you're doing?

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I was listening to some insights from Derek Sivers (sivers.org), the guy who created CD Baby, sold it for $22 million and rolled all of that into a fund that would support education for musicians after he died. Cool. He asked, why do you do what you do, and then suggested to pick from one of these 5 reasons: 1. Money 2. Prestige 3. Fame 4. Legacy 5. Freedom And he says choosing any is okay, just be true to yourself and then optimise your career for that: focus on that, make that your measure. But it may mean NOT focussing on getting the others too, but some of them might come as a by-product. So, for example, if you choose to go for Money, then you might let someone else take the spotlight (Fame) while you focus on the money. Like being the movie producer instead of the star actor. If you want prestige, then focus on the circles that you wish to be acknowledged for and give up some of the other stuff. If you want the limelight, be everywhere. If you want legacy, put...

3 Tips to Stop being your own Bottleneck

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When did you realise that you're the bottleneck to your own progress? For me, it was when I realised I was buying lots of apps, software and courses to help me progress, but I wasn’t using them. I’d start using them, then ... I’d stop. I knew I needed to write more, create more, produce more, but I wasn’t doing it. And it frustrated me. Notice that your procrastination makes you frustrated You know how you just get busy? You just have to do that other thing. And it's an important other thing. It might be a business thing, a proposal, a team meeting, a review of some of your team’s work so they can move on. You don't want to be the bottleneck.  Who is your bottleneck? For the value I needed to create, I noticed that my bottleneck was me. And when I realised it, it frustrated me. Sometimes it's a simmering frustration, and sometimes the odd burst of anger comes out at something like a spilt coffee. And I have realised that most of the time, I'm ann...

Do the work - the gentle kick in the pants you might need

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Tweet Image Have you - in the past of course - been too lazy to be more successful? Or richer or healthier or to get the results you want or whatever? You already know what you need to do. Do the work dude. You know it. Just do it. Get annoyed enough with yourself for not doing it so that you do it. So what do you need to do? The stuff you've been putting off usually. The stuff you avoid. The stuff you make excuses about not being able to do. Fat and don't like running? Start running. But my knee... Walk then... My other knee... Swim. Stop making stupid excuses that blame something else other than your resistance to doing what needs to be done. Albert Gray, an insurance guy in the 1940s said in a famous speech titled The Common Denominator of Success , "The common denominator of success is that successful people form the habit of doing things that failures don't like to do." We all have areas of our life that we could be more successful in. So w...

3 Action Cycles to Start Creating Wealth

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Basics: 3 Action Cycles to Start Creating Wealth. It's not rocket science, but it's a straightforward process. These actionable strategies only require you and some time, and you can start from any wealth level. Even the "miserable wealth" level. :) If you're miserable about not being wealthy, there are usually 3 actions you haven't taken. Get these three things done and moving and you'll likely stop being miserable and start getting wealthier. Action Step 1: Define your wealth goal immediately Define what being wealthy is for you. "Having more than now" is not a suitable definition because finding 20 cents on the pavement will meet that criteria, yet it doesn't transform your life. In Richard Templar's book The Rules of Wealth , he shared how a friend defined being wealthy as when he could live off the interest earned from the interest earned on his earned stash. So his stash earns interest, and the interest earned on the int...